Today closes another year. Another strange, what the heck was that kind of year. I know so many (myself included) that have had a kind of year where it seems as if at every turn there is something lurking in the shadows, waiting to come out and surprise you in a very unwelcoming way.
It seemed as if we overcame one obstacle, just to find another looming not far behind. You may have felt yourself drowning in emotional turmoil, wrapped in feelings of frustration, anger and helplessness. Found yourself thinking, “I just don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t know how I can handle anymore of this.”
Now as we gaze upon the New Year, your head may be spinning with resolutions. How can you put your best foot forward into the New Year? What changes do you need to make? How can you truly create the life you want? How can we shift our focus and let go of the less than stellar energy we may have experienced in 2021? Will we create the life we want if we get a gym membership and commit to going to the gym? Will it happen if we start eating better? What other resolutions can we make that would completely turn our lives around? How can we jump into the New Year with a gusto and let life know we mean business and we are ready to change?? How can we stomp forward with our resolutions?
Why is it that most New Years resolutions end up typically being tossed aside by the end of January?
To put it plainly, we set expectations. It’s really that simple. When those expectations aren’t met, we tend to then beat ourselves up and rather than praising ourselves for the progress we have made, we bash ourselves for what we didn’t achieve. Your New Year resolution may go something like this…”I am going to lose 25lbs next year and I’m going to start by hitting the gym hard. I’m going to go every single day. I bet I will lose 5lbs by the end of January. That’s my goal.”
Now, you and I both know that life happens, so maybe you made it to the gym every other day instead of every day. The end of January comes, you step on the scale and to your amazement you notice you’ve lost 2lbs. You look in the mirror and notice you do look more muscular than you did before you started working out in the beginning of January.
But, instead of praising yourself for losing 2lbs and making it to the gym every other day, you start a downward spiral and start to get down on yourself. Which may leave thoughts running through your head such as, “I would have lost more if I would have gone everyday like I said.” “Only 2lbs? What a waste of my time to come every other day and only lose 2lbs!” “At this rate, I’m never going to meet my goal, why bother coming to the gym?!?”
Do you see what’s happening here? You’ve already declared yourself defeated, rather than seeing and celebrating your victory. You went to the gym every other day and gained muscle while losing weight, what a great start! Rather than seeing that, we see what we didn’t accomplish, based on our original expectation. We then let those thoughts overcome and set our reality in a way that makes us stop going to the gym all together. Is that really the energy we want to bring and carry forward into the New Year?
How can we shift our expectations and let go of the “Go big or go home” mentality that so many of us have been conditioned to accept? Does the New Year really need to be some huge proclamation of how we are going to stomp into the New Year?
What if, instead, we decided to bring forth Mindful Intentions for the New Year?
Let’s use the gym example above. Rather than proclaiming you’re going to lose the weight and go to the gym, what if we shifted the energy and set the intention of being grateful for your body as it is?
What if we sat with our body in the mirror every single day and praised it for all that it has helped us accomplish in this life? What if we then became mindful of how we could help our body support us fully? Such as starting to make small changes with diet and exercise?
Rather than beating ourselves up for not going to the gym, we praise ourselves for eating an apple that day. We praise ourselves for the small changes we are making. Maybe its something as small as using the steps rather than the elevator when you’re out shopping. All of a sudden before you know it, all of these small things start to really add up and the changes become effortless. You start to truly feel better, energetically lighter. Which in turn makes you want to continue implementing small mindful changes.
When you start to feel better, you start attracting vibrant energy that says celebrate every success regardless of how “small” it may be perceived to be. Month by month this continues and you start to truly find the joy in eating well and going to the gym when your schedule allows.
Without fixating on an expected outcome, we find the joy in what already is. We allow what is to already “be” and we celebrate it as it is. Once we start celebrating what is and begin to find the joy in the “ordinary” we begin to attract the extraordinary into our lives. We begin to effortlessly shift our energy into a higher vibration, thus allowing us to see the magic that is all around us. Allowing us to experience and exude the bliss that doesn’t come with expectation, but comes with Mindful Intention.
What Mindful Intentions will you bring forth into the New Year?