Powerful Vulnerability

Have you ever thought being vulnerable could be powerful? What if I told you it was a true superpower? Yes, seriously, a superpower.

You might be asking, “How can being vulnerable be a superpower? Has Sara lost it? There’s only ever been room for strength.”

But see that’s where we get hung up. In our society and within the constructs of humanity, we have been taught only the strong survive. This mantra is unknowingly around us always, in all ways, yet we fail to recognize it, it’s just part of our normal day-to-day lives. Yet, we see it everywhere and it becomes ingrained into our subconscious minds. Unaware, we start living from a place where we think:

“ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE.”
“SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST”
“I AM SO TIRED, BUT I’LL REST WHEN I’M DEAD.”
“IT’S TOTALLY FINE THAT I GOT INTO A FIGHT WITH MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER RIGHT BEFORE WORK. I’LL JUST PUT ON A HAPPY FACE AND MUSCLE THROUGH IT UNTIL THE END OF THE DAY.”
“NO REST FOR THE WICKED.”
“NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR MY SOB STORY, I HAVE TO SHOW MY STRENGTH.”
“I’M FINE. IT’S FINE. WE ARE ALL FINE.”

I think you can see where I’m going with this and yet no one stops to question, most just go with the flow. Maybe even at times saying the very things that are above to justify why they can’t be vulnerable. I mean who really wants to tell someone else, “Today is just not a great day, I feel pretty broken today.”

So we hold it in. Even on the worst days, we don’t want anyone to see or know just how vulnerable we feel under that smile, because, you know, strength and stuff.

Yet, what we are failing to realize, is the true strength is within our vulnerability. That’s truly how we will be able to help one another and meet each other in a place of compassion. By being vulnerable.

Could it really be that simple? You just being vulnerable with your fellow human?
Yes, yes it is.

Yet, we tend to make it difficult. Stuck within the mental constructs that have been set before us, which tell us we need to be strong. So we unknowingly start to make a story in our head as to how it will all go down if we even choose to show a glimpse of vulnerability.

We make up a story about how we will be judged. I mean, how could anyone really relate to what we are going through, anyways? So we hold everything in, closely to us like an unwelcome friend. Can’t let anyone see our perceived weakness. So we tend not to share our “less than stellar” life experiences out of fear that it will ruin our perfect construct of how we present ourselves to the world. It will sully our constructed “strong” image.

However, what we have failed to realize after all of this time…the true strength, the true power, the ultimate superpower is within your vulnerability.

We as a collective, now more than ever are craving connection with one another. True, heart centered connection. The kind that wraps you like a warm cozy blanket on a chilly day. The kind that washes over you like a calming embrace, letting you know you’re not alone.

There has been so much chaos and so much turmoil woven within our lives in the last couple of years, that sometimes we can’t help but feel like we are on an island all by ourselves. Almost as if we are imprisoned there without a way out.

However, vulnerability can be your boat. Your way out of the madness. Your way off the island.

When we show our vulnerabilities, true heart opening compassion can be witnessed. By being vulnerable with one another we realize, the island was only a construct of our mind. There is connection out there waiting for us, but only if we are vulnerable. Truly and completely vulnerable.

By being vulnerable we can lift one another up. By sharing the lessons we have learned along the way, we in turn help one another grow. By opening our souls to one another we can see the divinity within each other. Because lets face it, in our human form, everyone has a bad day. Everyone is going to, as I say lovingly, “Wade through the shit.” I know I have waded through enough of it myself in this life. I’m not going to lie, at times I felt like I was stuck in a bottomless pit with no way out. Stuck down in the depths of despair feeling like there would never be a way out. Like all I could do was claw at the walls and never make it back to the surface. The more I thought about it, the farther I sank into the madness.

Until I came to the ultimate realization…
There is infinite light within the vulnerability.

By sharing the depths of myself with others that I didn’t want them to see, some of my life stories, all of a sudden it was this beautiful opening. This wondrous cracking of an elegant, perfect porcelain statue. Light slowly started to filter through the cracks of this armor I had created, illuminating everything down to the very depths of my soul. I finally felt a freedom like I have never felt before.

By being vulnerable, I was able to see that I wasn’t alone with my thoughts and feelings. I wasn’t alone in the depths of despair, the others were just hiding out in their own corners, in their own strong solitude. Imprisoned by their own mental constructs of “Perfect strength .” I became the beacon of light for others to share their own vulnerabilities too.
By sharing my “unperfectness”, I was able to show others the true perfection in their life experiences. The perfection in the lessons that had been learned along their journey. I was able to pass the hammer so they too could crack their stern statuesque exterior and start to allow the light to filter in. I was able to illuminate the vulnerability and turn it into an opportunity for healing and release.

You see, we all have experiences throughout our lives, that are lessons. Beautiful, sometimes crazy hard to believe, I don’t want anymore of these lessons, lessons. It’s when we share these lessons with one another that we not only are lead to the light, but we also help lead the other person to the light as well. It’s as if any judgement we held around that story all of a sudden washes away, it looses its power and becomes “Just another story” in our journey. Another life lesson that we have learned along the way.

That’s truly what this life is about, learning lessons and meeting others in a place of compassion while they learn their own lessons.
Be real with one another, be open, be compassionate and meet one another in love. Ditch the strength, be open, be vulnerable.
By being vulnerable, we can save one another, we can save the world.
Vulnerability is your true superpower.
Maybe it’s time to start looking for your cape ❤️